On how I decided to be open and honest, and apparently am not the only one

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I just read this article about "love in capitalist times", which resonates with many of the things that have been on mind since some time now (although I do not identify with everything that is said here). The article is in Polish, so I translated an excerpt for those of you who do not speak Polish (big mistake, big mistake folks :p):

“Concerning the ‘games’ and ‘intrigues’ that women are said to play in romantic relationships – the world forces them to do so. That’s also why jokes and memes about [a so-called] ‘female logic’ or rather women’s lack thereof, about how difficult it is to understand women, and how absurd is their ‘thinking something, doing something else’ principle, are misplaced. It’s not a question of [a female] nature, but of socialization. It’s a bit as if you trained a dog and then made fun of him for obeying. It’s true – it is difficult to really learn to know and understand someone who has been taught that telling the truth about their needs and desires is the easiest way to block the road to their realization. […] I have abandoned such make-believes a long time ago and openly declare that I am interested only in total relations based on absolute faithfulness and loyalty. As a consequence, I have been labelled ‘difficult’ and ‘demanding’. I stopped caring that someone can get scared [by such honesty][…]. I think it’s a good thing to scare away those people who do not answer your most fundamental needs, instead of forcing yourself into constantly trying to trick someone into loving you. It would also be relevant to remark that current models of masculinity exclude the desire for and aptitude to emotional commitment. So instead of constantly blaming men for being emotionally underdeveloped, it would be more productive to focus on creating standards of male emotionality that are not based on sexual capital.”

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